THE Matthew McConaughey talk about the experience sexual abuse which he suffered when he was just 15 years old.
McConaughey previously addressed this traumatic experience in his 2020 biography Greenlights, and now decided to speak in more detail about his past during a recent appearance on Amanda de Cadenet’s The Conversation podcast.
Speaking about the incident, McConaughey focused on how he refused to let it affect his future sexual relationships as a teenager.
The actor told de Cadenet: “I will not be afraid of relationships because my first sexual experience was blackmail. No. And I won’t let it defeat me. I won’t let it defeat my sense of trust in people and prevent me from saying, “No, I can have a healthy relationship.” Non-negotiable.”
He added that this attitude of his was not exactly a conscious choice that he can explain, in order to give a clear advice. “I don’t have a scientific answer on how to deal with it, it wasn’t an option. I love life very much and I believe in life, I believe in people. I still instinctively trust first.
After that, I was able to have some healthy sex and have girls that I liked and they liked me, and we slowly got closer and it was pretty and awkward and all that stuff, but it wasn’t bad like my first experience was.”
In Greenlights, McConaughey also revealed that at the age of 18 he was molested by a man in the back of a van while he was unconscious.
As he stated on the podcast, he felt he had no choice but to overcome the traumatic events of his teenage years. He explained: “I chose, non-negotiable, not to carry that, not to carry that burden into the life I’m going to live, and how I treat people and how I trust people, and how I interpret situations and the risk that I might face. I take.”
The Oscar-winning actor has three children with his wife Camila Alves. He confides that he knew the importance of consent from a very young age, having learned an important sex education lesson from his father.
“He said to me, ‘Son, as the man in the relationship’ – talking to me about a heterosexual relationship – ‘if you ever feel the girl, the female, hesitating, stop. You might even feel her hesitating. After you stop, you might to say ‘oh, no, come on’. Don’t do it. Wait until next time. If it’s going to happen, you’ll get another chance,” McConaughey concluded.