“Kids today act like they’ve never heard the word no,” says a teacher | Marie Claire

Ksome put the causes in the pandemic, some others in the new methods upbringing of the children. No matter which “school” one supports who believes that children today exhibit problematic behaviors, one thing is certain: Educators continue to observe children’s behavior in and out of the classroom, trying to understand its underlying causes.

The evidence speaks for itself, at least in all countries where the issue has been investigated for some time. The behavior of a large portion of children is deemed unacceptable by the teachers who state unequivocally that they find it difficult to manage them. A teacher in the US expressed her own opinion through the Reddit platform, arguing that the root of the problem is that children never hear the word “no” from their parents.

Specifically, the teacher told a story of her own. One day when she was teaching, a girl from another class came into her classroom and sat next to one of her friends. He immediately approached the students and asked the visitor what exactly she wanted. She replied that she had a gap and would sit with them until it was over. The teacher told her she had to leave and the girl looked shocked and annoyed.

An argument ensued that lasted a few minutes. At one point the teacher told the girl that she was being disrespected, and then she started exchanging glances with her friend, taking on a tone that strongly questioned her. And then the visitor turned to her friend and told her about the teacher: “Who does she think she is”?

Worst of all, the girl had lied, as she was absent from her class at the time.

The teacher, who experienced this incident the first year she entered the classroom to teach, believes that the parents and the rest of the children’s environment never deny them anythingtherefore hearing the word no is something unprecedented for them.

The same is argued by psychotherapist Lori Fersonwho spoke to Huff Post about the same issue.

“I have news for you: Children need you to tell them no. They are not emotionally or developmentally ready to make big decisions or make or follow rules. That’s your job. And if you don’t, your child will feel confused, that they are in a mess, which can even be expressed with stomachaches, headaches, behavioral outbursts, and even ulcers.”

The expert also pointed out that the back-to-back Yes anything a child asks for can easily end up being spoiled.

Many times it is difficult for someone to refuse something that their child asks for, however according to the psychotherapist, this is the best thing he can do for him and will help him in his life much more than hearing yes all the time.

Other educators who posted about the issue under the teacher’s post said some kids have the belief that they are entitled to everything they ask for to give them or allow them and consequently believe that the rules do not apply to them. Another set of commentators pointed out that this behavior starts at an early age, with children crying to be placated.

Probably the teachers who argue that children should listen to some no in their life they are right. It’s a matter of boundaries too limits they never hurt anyone. Instead, they give the child the context he cannot define on his own, so he knows where and how to move. And for no reason should we confuse denial with lack of love. If we really love our children, we set limits for them, for the good of all of us and above all for their own good.