Dear Amba community
How can you understand if the thought of changing city is the result of a real need of yours and not a side effect of thinking “the grass is always greener on the other side”?
I am just before my 30s and while theoretically I am “building my life” in the place where I grew up which is none other than Thessaloniki, I keep having a thought that scratches my mind that maybe I should change my place and leave either Athens or abroad maybe .
In general, I have a quiet everyday life, I have a good job that doesn’t excite me too much but covers me financially at the moment and offers me a sense of security, I have a good personal relationship and I’ve been living alone for about a year now. While I feel like I’m here where I am, I keep having the thought of moving to the back of my mind and it reappears with the slightest reason (eg some comment someone can make about the city, for example).
Maybe it’s because almost everyone I was friends with or had a lot of company with scattered here and there, maybe it’s because I’ve learned my city from the outside and mixed up but without any obvious reason I often think that maybe I would be better off if I was changing where I live.
But on the other hand, here is my family that I love very much and I have a meaning for them, my relationship, in general I can’t do long distances at all and I spend more time at home than outside, I’m quite an introvert (but if necessary I can be social etc ), whenever I return from a trip etc I can’t wait to go back and the truth is that I don’t have any great motivation that would push me to leave (eg work, relationship etc). I can’t figure out exactly why this is happening to me, because I have these doubts all the time. I sometimes think that I don’t have much inspiration from my everyday life and that partly the city doesn’t give me the same vibe as before or the stagnation that unfortunately characterizes it doesn’t help with that, but maybe this is a redirection from the real problem? On the other hand, I think maybe I get carried away by the spirit of permanent change and movement that is distinguished in our time, like a form of FOMO, I don’t know how to describe it. Or am I just making excuses?
I hope you can make some sense out of my confusing text. Thanks in advance to anyone who shares similar stories, concerns or thoughts.
FROM – Confused
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