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Mcoming second may have a negative connotation, yet one woman says she’s quite happy to be the second husband of her husband as, as she comments in one of her testimonies, “he learned a lot from his first marriage». For her, however, this is the first time she is getting married and becoming a mother.
“We are closing in July this year nine years relationship and seven marriage. We have two beautiful children, a 5 year old daughter and a 7 month old son. While no marriage is perfect, I believe ours is unique advantages. My husband can take what went wrong with his first and use it as a “don’t” list. He is a different person than he was 25 years ago when he first got married and became a father. His experience pays off in our own marriage».
“My husband can take what went wrong with his first and use it as a ‘don’t’ list. He is a different person than he was 25 years ago when he first got married and became a father.”
As she adds, in his first marriage he was very young and conditions were particularly distant from the ideal. The pregnancy came suddenly and she was forced to get married. “Today my husband is almost 60. With time comes understanding.
“He has learned it importance her patience – with the partner, the child, yourself. In marriage, you need what sometimes feels like infinite patience. While his isn’t endless – he has too much, especially when it comes to our active five-year-old daughter».
Today, too, her husband is more confident. “It always felt like it black sheep her family of him, given that he is an artist. Is painter and he spent long periods of his life trying to isolated from the world and gather. His family never understood this. Even though he doesn’t do it very often anymore, when he does, I understand him. He’s proven his worth, he’s worked hard and he knows who he is».
“He is a painter and spent long periods of his life trying to isolate himself from the world and concentrate. His family never understood this. Even though he doesn’t do it very often now, when he does, I understand him.”
As she adds below:When I was younger, my mom used to tell me that it was important to I know how to Disagree. It seemed ridiculous to me at the time, but today I understand exactly what he meant. My husband admits that, younger, he often will was rising the voice of when the tension was rising. Now he knows how to listen and it is important to respects each other. In his first marriage he believed he was always right about parenting and life in general. But now he knows it’s ok to make a mistake and, most importantly, admit it. He knows that not he’s got always right – and that’s okay. Even when we fight we mutually try to work it out together».
This woman concludes: “I know that part of it maturity it’s my husband’s normal development of age – there were 20 years between his marriages – but I also believe he wouldn’t have learned as much without the experience he gained from the first.
“I know that part of my husband’s maturity is a natural progression of age – there were 20 years between his marriages – but I also believe that he would not have learned as much without the experience he gained from his first.”
“Today he talks about his ex-wife in good words, especially about her role as a mother, and I really respect that, because I see it as another sign that he has matured. I feel very lucky to be his second wife, to have met him after he managed to aborts by organization of many of the mistakes which he had done when we were young. As it turns out, sometimes the real one winner he is the one who is coming second».
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